This morning, as we ate at Waffle House before going to church, I looked over at my dear darlings. Snarled hair they insist had been brushed. Interesting outfits.
I always wonder about the balance between raising ladies who understand the importance of meeting basic societal grooming guidelines and raising girls who aren’t obsessed at ages 7 and 9 with looking like women, when they are still clearly just girls. Acknowledging this, I know I can be a little lax, and especially when I am worn out.
I will say that I should get a medal for vetoing Grace’s outfit for my Dad’s memorial, which was a turquoise shirt with a skull and cross bones – she just didn’t understand why it wasn’t appropriate. And today, I took Andra to get her first haircut of the summer, just in time for school to start. I don’t allow tube tops at church or funerals, and don’t think they haven’t asked a million times. We are improving.
We aren’t quite to my grandmother’s standards, yet, and I am not sure we want to get all the way there. We are traveling by plane later this week, and while I don’t plan to get us all gussied up to go – I generally opt for comfort and stain camouflage – I think I will make sure we all have brushed hair and skin coverage.
That’s a good start, I think.
I always wonder about the balance between raising ladies who understand the importance of meeting basic societal grooming guidelines and raising girls who aren’t obsessed at ages 7 and 9 with looking like women, when they are still clearly just girls. Acknowledging this, I know I can be a little lax, and especially when I am worn out.
I will say that I should get a medal for vetoing Grace’s outfit for my Dad’s memorial, which was a turquoise shirt with a skull and cross bones – she just didn’t understand why it wasn’t appropriate. And today, I took Andra to get her first haircut of the summer, just in time for school to start. I don’t allow tube tops at church or funerals, and don’t think they haven’t asked a million times. We are improving.
We aren’t quite to my grandmother’s standards, yet, and I am not sure we want to get all the way there. We are traveling by plane later this week, and while I don’t plan to get us all gussied up to go – I generally opt for comfort and stain camouflage – I think I will make sure we all have brushed hair and skin coverage.
That’s a good start, I think.
mostlyjenine 